Therapy Mistakes You Can’t Afford to Make

Beginning therapy is a massive step towards improving your mental health and overall well-being. In every inquiry email I respond to I include that I’m am honored to have received the potential client’s message- because I truly am. The vulnerability and courage it takes to ask for help is not lost on me!

While I may not know a whole lot about investing on Wall Street- I do know a thing or two about investing in your mental health. And if you’re thinking about setting aside both your time and financial resources in order to make a change in your life… there are just some mistakes you can’t afford to make.

Not Keeping a Consistent Schedule

Consistency in therapy sessions is a non-negotiable. Regular sessions are essential for building trust, maintaining progress, and systematically addressing issues. Missing sessions or frequently rescheduling disrupts the process in more ways than you may realize:

• Loss of Momentum: Ideally, each session builds on the previous one. Skipping sessions can break the continuity, making it challenging to maintain the progress you’ve achieved.
• Tracking Progress: Regular sessions allow for better tracking of progress and goal setting. Inconsistent attendance makes it difficult for both you and your therapist to gauge improvements or identify areas needing more focus.
• Trust Building: Relationships are built on trust, and trust is built from consistency. Regular interactions foster a deeper understanding and trust between you and your therapist, which is essential for effective therapy.

To ensure you keep a consistent schedule, treat your therapy appointments as a non-negotiable commitment. Plan ahead, set reminders, and communicate with your therapist if you foresee any scheduling conflicts. Prioritizing your therapy sessions can significantly enhance the effectiveness of your treatment.
Additionally- don’t be afraid to ask during a consult call what your therapists’ schedule looks like! If you’re looking to invest, a therapist who has inconsistent availability or can only see you once every 8-12 weeks might not be a great fit.

Striving to Say What’s Considered Correct

Therapy is only as beneficial as your unedited expression and exploration of thoughts and feelings. However, many clients fall into the trap of trying to say what they think their therapist wants to hear. This can lead to misunderstandings, inaccurate treatment planning, and disappointment.

Remember, your therapist is there to help you navigate the changes you wish to see in your life. It’s impossible to navigate if we don’t have accurate data points. Embrace the vulnerability that comes with being open and truthful in your sessions.

Not Using Skills Between Sessions

I use the term “skills generalization” most often- because the goal is for the work we’re doing to be helpful NOT in the therapy office, but in your real relationships. Not using these skills between sessions can limit your progress because we may need to do furthering work or troubleshooting of challenges. Being able to bring this feedback into session helps to adjust strategies and improve effectiveness.

To integrate these skills into your life, set specific goals for practice, keep a journal (or diary card) of your experiences, and discuss any difficulties in session. Being proactive ensures that therapy extends beyond the session and becomes an integrated part of your daily routine.

Exclusively Searching for an In-Network Provider

While in-network therapists are often more affordable due to insurance coverage, limiting your search to only in-network providers can restrict your options and may prevent you from finding the best fit for your specific needs. Here’s why:

• Limited Options: In-network providers may not always have the specialization or approach that best suits your needs. Expanding your search can help you find a therapist with the specific expertise required for your situation.
• Confidentiality Concerns: While all therapists prioritize confidentiality, out-of-network providers may offer an added layer of privacy. In-network providers often have to share treatment details with insurance companies, which some clients may prefer to avoid.
• Specialized Expertise and Flexibility: Out-of-network therapists often offer specialized services and greater flexibility in treatment options, including appointment times and therapeutic approaches. This can be particularly beneficial if you have specific needs or prefer a more tailored therapeutic experience.

Prioritizing your specific therapeutic needs over your insurance provider’s options can lead to a more effective and personalized experience.

Interested in learning more about avoiding common therapy mistakes and maximizing your therapeutic journey? Call to schedule a consultation- even though I’m not currently accepting new clients, I would be happy to consult with you and share recommendations and referrals for other providers in the area!